Addiction

I started this philosophy last year-- that everybody needs a balance in their lives. Meaning what? That we all cannot be addicts to a particular event/activity in life. For instance, majority of addiction that takes up of our time is WORK. We all have American Dreams where we chase after bucks and lose our clear breaths over demeaning goals at workplace.

I did not mention addiction to any sort of drugs-- because drugs are a band-aid to a conflict. I had learned this when I decided to assist a friend who was recovering from Meth, he had asked me to drive him to AA meetings-- I had asked him why he is going to an Alcohol Anonymous when he is Meth addict, not a drinker. He explained "all the addictions are the same in one way: everybody has an issue that they are afraid to face, and has no courage to face it in order to overcome it in a healthy way." He then invited me to his meetings, I sat through those meetings listening to people proudly say "I have been clean for 2 months (or whenever)" then explain their goals.

What impressed me most about those recovery people-- they never speak of negative things, they focused on what they needed to overcome and move on to their dreams. The friend had decided to go out of state to participate into a more intense addiction program to figure himself out because he still had trouble figuring how to overcome his addiction. He returned 2 months later, told me "I realized I had anxiety. I did not understand that I could not make decisions or move onto a positive project by myself, I kept focusing on people judging me and telling me negative things about myself." then proceed to tell me, "I have to believe in myself. Believe in my strength, not in other's perspective of my failures. They are not failures. They are my lessons into how I can learn how to be stronger and be a good person."

I have to thank him for his continuous life lessons. I enjoy learning things from people's experiences. Since I do not suffer drug or substance abuse, I cannot pass judgement on others and because of my friend, I learned that most of abuse comes from not respecting or believing in one self's strength.

Drug Addiction is not an Addiction. It is feeding to your miserable disease where you are not confident in yourself and allowing negativity to feed on you.

Believe in yourself.

Now, this is proportional to people who abuse TIME in life. Watching TV, addicted to working, etc. I have few friends who are addicted to work. I have never seen them take up hobbies in life-- they had made their workplace a hobby. It's sort of sad because they have often come to me and sat with me, asking me ridiculous questions: "What do you think I should do?" "What is there to do?" "Can I watch TV?" "Why are you always biking?" "I should exercise, but... I just couldn't go there."

It's a lack of putting your creativity into place. To be honest, most of my ideas comes to me when I'm running, biking, or walking my dog. Creativity does not come from watching TV and working most of the day.  It's called MEDIATION.

My biggest theory is that everybody needs at least 30 minutes or a hour of mediation DAILY. It gives them the downtime of their brains to develop everything and putting things into place, clearing up your thoughts, creating new ideas, etc. For some, mediation comes in when your body is functioning: exercising.

As well as that my pet peeve as a Deaf person is when a person tells me: "Oh, I wish I knew Sign Language." ARRRRGGGH!!! Most of those people are friends of my friends. I have bumped into them several times and they say the same things all over again. I often refrain myself from snapping at them "if you wish you knew Sign Language, why don't you just LEARN? Take a class, pick up some signs from me?" They often say it but never bothered to ask me to teach them basics. Do not say what you do not plan to do.

DO! If you "wish" or "would love to" take that challenge! Move forward and take it up! You goal should not be to say "I wish" again. If you wish, DOOOOOOOOOO!

I know, this post is not valid enough, but my point is to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND DO! Don't degrade yourself if you feel that you are good enough for "I wish." Believe that you have the ability to succeed, do not allow others to tell you that you are unable.

 Break away from the daily life's addictions, learn how to mediate with yourself, find your strength within, find what pushes you forward, and allow that TIME for yourself. Balance it out. Don't let Work take it from you. Don't let TV take it from you. Don't let Negativity take it from you. Don't get addicted. Learn how to prioritize and allow that short time for yourself to feel in place.

Confide in You.